The last couple of months have revolved around an ongoing debate at my house. My fiance Mitch wanted to trade in his truck (which he had just purchased in November) and get a Jeep. My list of arguments as to why this was a bad idea was long:
- You just bought this truck. If you didn’t want it, you shouldn’t have bought it.
- We are saving up for a wedding. You don’t need to be spending money on toys.
- How are you going to haul things without a truck?
- Yes, I know it seems fun, but do we really need it?
- I don’t know why you have to change vehicles so often; this is the fifth vehicle you’ve owned in the seven years we’ve been together.
And so on and so forth. I was dead set against this purchase. But, as I thought about it more, my arguments really it didn’t have to do with any of the above points. It had everything to do with a difference in two philosophies:
Philosophy #1: Lifetime of a vehicle
Amanda: A vehicle should be driven until it dies, paid off so you can save money for something new.
Mitch: A vehicle should be driven until I find something better (and not lose any money).
Philosophy #2: Large purchases
Amanda: High dollar purchases give me anxiety.
Mitch: Can I afford it? Awesome. Moving on.
It’s not uncommon to have differing philosophies in a relationship, especially about money. But, at the end of the day, we have one overriding policy between the two of us: if it doesn’t affect our joint finances, I don’t tell him how to spend his money and vice versa. We’re too independent to like being told what we can and can’t do with our respective incomes and so we’re good with this compromise. Which is why, last Tuesday night, Mitch became the owner of a 2008 Jeep Rubicon.
And I couldn’t be happier.
As we’ve been having this argument, all of my points centered around fear. Fear of spending too much money. Fear of not having enough money for the wedding. Fear of getting into the habit of frivolous spending. But those are my fears, not Mitch’s. He knows he can afford it and he’s better than me at looking at the bigger picture. He saw how driving a Jeep could allow us to have better experiences than his former vehicle. Not just for him, but for us as a family.
And he was right.
We spent the 4th of July weekend in northern Michigan, and here’s just a glimpse of the blast we had thanks to the Jeep:
I have a bad habit of getting a little too uptight, and not enjoying the moment for what it is. But Mitch’s “frivolous” purchase was one more example of how he consistently shows me how to loosen up a little, chill out and have fun.
So here’s to many more off-roading, wind in our hair, singing to the music moments in the Jeep!